As We Set Off Down Nottingham Road…

Last Sunday was one of the most special days of our lives. Thank you all SO much for all you gave us. To see the church filled with so many people to whom we feel so closely bonded was the most wonderful context to worship together, to reflect, to pray and then gather together around Christ’s table. And it was a real treat to spend time later with many.

Thank you for the beautiful plate you gave us. It’s a perfect colour, not least as that shade of blue reminds Joanna of her alma mater university and me of my old school! For sure it will have a prominent place and we will use it a lot. Every time we see it, we’ll remember you. We discovered from you an amazingly generous gift voucher, to be spent as soon as we have a home in Nottingham. We’ve had lots of wonderful gifts: a great picture of St John’s, photo books, food, wine – your generosity and imagination knows no bounds (we want to thank the giver of the great golf ball clock – the card had become detached.)

We will live for a long time with the warmth, depth and richness of Sunday. We will keep in touch. My next post as interim Chaplain to Bishop Paul begins on 1st Sept, and we hope a parish in Nottingham will soon be confirmed. It IS amazing that the street opposite St John’s Church is named as it is, so that we could together walk a bit down the Road to Nottingham, our hearts strong with this blessing Brian and Gayle, on your behalf, had just prayed:

As Tom and Joanna begin their journey to Nottingham, we bless them in the name of the Lord. May our heavenly Father be your help, as you walk in the footsteps of Jesus Christ. May the power of the Cross and Resurrection keep you, by day and by night, from all evil. May the Holy Spirit lead you each day in your going out and in your coming in, that you bring in a rich harvest, from this time forth and for evermore. AMEN

Summer in the Forest

Joanna and I were lucky enough to be able go to the premier of Summer in the Forest, a beautiful, intensely moving and I am sure an important film. It explores what it is to be truly human.

It’s a film about the L’Arche Communities, founded in the 1960s by a young Canadian philosopher, Jean Vanier, to provide a home for people with a disability – often profound. We get to know Michel, Philippe, Andre, Patrick and David in their home at Troisly, near Paris. We meet Sara and others out in their community at Bethlehem. It’s a slow moving film, little action, but beautiful human scenes with some deeply painful insights into the lives of those with a disability. We enjoy Jean’s own presence in the communities, and hear his exceptional insights.

In the Q & A session following the showing, the Director, Randall Wright, explained how it was that as the individual stories of each person emerged, so the film took shape. Michel tells us the tragic circumstances of his early life, how he suffered beatings in the asylum that he and countless others had to endure. There is an incredibly tender scene as Jean tells the severely disabled Sebastian how beautiful he is. We see in action the ‘big man’ inside David, who keeps the world a safer place. Fred is overcome with emotion at the party to celebrate his engagement to Celeste. Jean is unable to stop smiling and laughing with the community in Bethlehem.

It’s not just a very ‘spiritual’ film, indeed it is one of the very best ways I’ve seen to communicate the heart of Christianity. Each person is unique, sacred and beautiful, but also, beset with fears that our cry for love will not be heard, that we will be left alone. The answer lies not in feeling we need to become better or stronger than others, rather being willing to meet in vulnerability, taking time, sitting together at table – becoming true friends.


Three Years a Curate

I first met Tom in 2003 in the war zone of South Sudan on a church mission trip. I was engaged to Rachel and as a couple we enjoyed getting to know Tom and Jo and all the kids and saw them from time to time over the next few years, both in London and in Brazil. And so it was amazing that Bishop Paul in 2014 appointed me Deanery Pioneer Curate based at St John’s (and shortly to be with St Mary’s) which turned out to be a really good idea from my point of view. Tom and I have remained, with God’s help, firm friends from start to finish (assuming we don’t fall out in the next week!)

I have loved my curacy, and the more I chat to other curates I know, the more I can see my curacy has been particularly unique and positive. With no employed staff team here, all of church life comes across Tom’s desk, and often my desk, and we have had to work it out together. This has given me a lot of exposure to running the parish. I think it’s also amazing that so many of our members live locally and can walk to church – either at St John’s or St Mary’s. Consequently, we have unusually strong links with local people, through shared experiences, passions and histories. This has not been the case in other churches I’ve been in.

The curacy has also helped me as a person – in terms of confidence and resilience. Praying through the Psalms daily with Tom has been crucial for this and has helped my own faith grow in reliance on God, as well as developing good patterns of spiritual disciplines. And then not having Tom when he went on sabbatical was a (steep!) learning curve but a good and necessary one which helped me to gain some perspective on this vocation of being a vicar. Needless to say, the curacy has been great fun for us as a whole family in large part because we have been so well looked after by both congregations.


Transforming Starlight and Sunshine

Almost all of us have to go to the West Mid Hospital at some point. If you have children, then definitely! The children’s unit provides cares for over 1,000 babies, children and young people each month, increasing, as a quarter of the local population is under 18. The staff on Starlight and Sunshine wards provide excellent care, but the environment requires significant improvement.

Katy and Jonathan Cooper’s children, Stanley and Ruby (being baptized today) have spent more than fair share of time there.

Katy says: “Creating a child friendly environment which caters for the different age groups that Starlight sees will really make a difference to children and their families. The play room in Starlight, although basic, is a vital part of Stanley’s time at the hospital. It will be great to see this area improved.

Stanley says: “Being in the playroom is good. I can stretch my legs. There is nothing to do but sit in the bed on the ward. I can squeeze the special toy and look at the books the play staff give me so I don’t have to look at the cannula.

West Middlesex Children’s Appeal explains the vision – to transform these wards to create a child friendly, welcoming, calming environment with better facilities and specifically designed to make being in hospital easier for children and their parents. The aim of the improvements is that children having procedures can be ‘distracted’; those who are bed bound will have more to occupy them; there will be lots of sensory play equipment; there will be a designated teenager space; and for parents, there will be more beds and the day room will be made more ‘homely’. 

£100,000 is the target. Support Jonathan in his half marathon. Contact Roberta Jones at CW+ to discuss your own fundraising activity.

To the FATHER, through the SON, in the SPIRIT

Last Sunday at the 10.00, many wrote down prayers which Tom then read them out. Here are most.

Thank you for our relationship with you through Your Son Jesus, that we may speak to you with open hearts. I pray for our church and for Tom and Dave as they move forward in serving you. Thank you for your blessings and goodness each day and for loving us as your children. Forgive the times I am far from you and forget to seek your wisdom.

I want to thank you for all the blessings we cannot see and all that we can see. Please heal the world and make it a better place. Make us more like you, and heal me in body, soul and spirit. Please give me a new beginning with you always by my side.

Thank you for our food and all our friends and family. Please help the poor, help those that suffer. Please bless the Blue School and my church. Please make me like you. Inspire us to know you better.

I pray for more grace and the strength to carry on in life. I pray for peace around the world. Thanks for all the blessings you pour upon us. Forgive those who sin against you. Help us always to give you glory.

For an end to all wars, for all those caught up through no fault of their own. Help them in the suffering. Please bless all people especially all who are suffering at the moment in countries like Syria. Help us to feel your grace, especially those in power. Help us see what is right and what is wrong. We pray for a satisfactory outcome, both for the EU and our country, of the Brexit negotiations and for sensitivity and honesty in the discussions.

For peace in all our hearts. For my daughter, that the hurt will heal, that she can forgive and move on. Remember out godparents on this godparent Sunday. We pray for our local community here in Isleworth, for many people to know your love. We pray for those about to embark on the journey of marriage and those much further down that road. We pray for our children, for those about to do their examinations. Give them strength and aid them in their work.